You grew up in a conservative culture that prevented you from expressing your authentic self. Maybe you were part of a religious group who cared more about controlling your behavior than promoting love in the world. Or maybe you had a parent who made things all about them, all the time, and you had to walk on eggshells.

You were told what to think or feel- it wasn't safe to express your truth. Other people  or groups sent the message that there was something wrong with you, and you internalized that sense of self-doubt, fear and shame.

All of this impacts how you show up in your life and in your relationships. you may be extra sensitive to percived rejection, or easily get defensive. little disagreements with your partner can ruin your whole night.